If ending a relationship has left you feeling hurt and maybe even a little guilty, there is help out there about how to deal with your feelings. Following a few steps can help you move through the healing process much more quickly and with your dignity still intact.
The first thing you need to do is give yourself a week or two and just take it easy. Just take things slow and allow yourself to process everything that has just happened. Do not ignore things that can and will make your life more difficult if you do not do them, like going to work or paying your bills, but do set aside the things that will not make your life more stressful. You need a little time for yourself after ending a relationship.
Make sure you set a time limit for this period of ‹mourning›. Only allow yourself a week or two and then get back out into the world and start living again. No one is saying that you should be over things in a week or two but you should have some things sorted out in that amount of time so you know what direction you need to take. That should be enough time to get things in line and then it’s time to get going and start living your life again while you continue healing.
The next step is to make sure that you are taking care of number one. Now that you have had some down time, it’s time to start feeling good about yourself and everything around you again. Make sure that you take the time to eat right and get enough rest. Throw in a little exercise everyday as well, heck, it couldn’t hurt. Exercise releases endorphins into your blood stream. These are the body’s natural «feel good» hormones.
This is not the time to get drunk and sleep around. These may offer some form of short term relief but will do nothing to keep your dignity intact. Doing one or both of these things will only make you feel worse about yourself so just steer clear.
The third thing is to avoid your ex at all costs. If the two of were together a long time and you have a lot of the same friends you may still see your ex from time to time when you go out. Do not engage them. This goes along with the dignity issue we discussed earlier.
It may seem harmless enough to say hi and try to be in the same place that they are but after a few drinks you may do or say something that you normally wouldn’t. So, if you go out and you see them, turn around and find someplace else to go have your drink.
The last step is to understand that you will someday find the love and happiness that you deserve. No one can tell you when that day will come but if you allow yourself the time you need and deal with all the emotions you have inside, you may find that day when you wake up and feel happy again has come a little sooner. These tips can help ending a relationship go a lot smoother for the most important person in all of this, you.